There are a few things that I will never forget, some things I'm sure I missed and of course a few things I would change.
I remember being relaxed all day, excited to see my husband-to-be and ready to say I DO! Other than worrying about the weather and how it'd affect my hair there was little to worry about. I remember the look of Jeremy's face when he saw me, how I almost started crying as I walked down the isle, how our niece kept making up smile as she made adorable noises that only babies make. How much I loved seeing my nephews and hearing that I took the oldest's breath away when he saw me get out of the car. Being so excited to walk down the isle that I kept telling other to have everyone sit down so we could get the wedding started. My farther-in-law being so nervous performing the ceremony that he announced us as husband and wife but forgot to say you may kiss the bride.
I loved taking pictures out at the lake. Spending time with the wedding party in the limo. I had fun with the girls being silly. Everything flew by, I really thought we had more time for photos. Of the ones I have seen I love them. I don't always love the way I look. I saw some photos from friends and family and could only think, "Would I like the photo better if my dress had been different or if I had had a reception dress to change into?" I know I'd had thoughts about my dress prior to the wedding but the main thing brides don't take into account is that the dress looks good when on for short periods of time. We never think about what it will be like to wear the dress for hours. As the night went on there were times that I couldn't wait to get out of the dress. I got tired of pulling it up on the top or picking up the skirt to dance, worrying about tripping over it as I danced with my husband, father and friends. Although my dress was a burden at times, I still had so much fun. Dancing like a fool, taking pictures in the photobooth, spending time (not as much as I would like like) with family and friends, making memories that we wouldn't be able to change.
If I could have changed anything, I would have had the rain stop in the morning, I would have hired a wedding planner and if money permitted I'd of had the wedding of my dreams. I'll wish upon a star for that someday.
Until I can think of more to write....
Monday, November 5, 2012
Thursday, October 4, 2012
7 days...
In less than 168 hours I will be tying the knot to a wonderful man that I can't wait to call my husband. Almost everything is finished at this point. I need to finish some of the many DIY projects that I've been working on. Clean up my apartment and pack up the decorations. Relax, Get my nails done, check in to the hotel, decorate the ceremony and the reception, finalize all the details and most of all GET MARRIED!!!
With the last few days and a tight budget there are some things that will just have to wait. I really wanted to create welcome baskets for my out of town guests. I also need to finish the wedding favors or possibly make a candy bar for guests to create their own favors. At this point I'd settle for homemade cookies wrapped in the favor bags. (I'd need some help to get that done.)
My ultimate goal to is finish most of the things on my to-do list by Sunday so that I can put the finishing touches on everything, decorate the reception venue and relax. I'd love to take a nice long relaxing bath the night before my wedding. (I hope I can get a few things from Lush so that I know I'll relax!!)
I want my wedding day to be as stress free as possible. I've already told the maid of honor that she will be answering my phone and filtering my calls. Planning a wedding can be difficult at times. All along the planning process I wanted a fun day that was care free and enjoyable. I wanted planning to be stress free and most of the time it was but the last year has been quite the roller-coaster. The one thing I was getting sick of is everyone putting in their opinion without taking mine into account. With the last few weeks I know I've moved to doing many things on my own mainly because I didn't want anyone else's view of how my day should go.
A few weeks ago I was watching a few different bridal movies and I totally agree with Emma from Bride Wars, "Sometimes it's about me, ... Not all the time, but every once in awhile it's my time. Like today. Now if your not okay with that, feel free to go" On my wedding day I don't want to hear, see, or deal with drama, While getting ready I want to do what works for me. If you don't like some part of my getting ready attire or my wedding day look, keep it to yourself. I only want to hear your opinion if I look like a clown (which I won't because I've done about 3-4 run-throughs now). I want people around me who want to help and will listen to what I need/want and not do what they think I need/want. After all this is my ONLY wedding day so it has to be full of things that go right and wonderful memories.
This will probably be my last post until after the wedding. In 7 days I will no longer be LalaLovelyBride, I'll be LalaLovelyWife!!!
With the last few days and a tight budget there are some things that will just have to wait. I really wanted to create welcome baskets for my out of town guests. I also need to finish the wedding favors or possibly make a candy bar for guests to create their own favors. At this point I'd settle for homemade cookies wrapped in the favor bags. (I'd need some help to get that done.)
My ultimate goal to is finish most of the things on my to-do list by Sunday so that I can put the finishing touches on everything, decorate the reception venue and relax. I'd love to take a nice long relaxing bath the night before my wedding. (I hope I can get a few things from Lush so that I know I'll relax!!)
I want my wedding day to be as stress free as possible. I've already told the maid of honor that she will be answering my phone and filtering my calls. Planning a wedding can be difficult at times. All along the planning process I wanted a fun day that was care free and enjoyable. I wanted planning to be stress free and most of the time it was but the last year has been quite the roller-coaster. The one thing I was getting sick of is everyone putting in their opinion without taking mine into account. With the last few weeks I know I've moved to doing many things on my own mainly because I didn't want anyone else's view of how my day should go.
A few weeks ago I was watching a few different bridal movies and I totally agree with Emma from Bride Wars, "Sometimes it's about me, ... Not all the time, but every once in awhile it's my time. Like today. Now if your not okay with that, feel free to go" On my wedding day I don't want to hear, see, or deal with drama, While getting ready I want to do what works for me. If you don't like some part of my getting ready attire or my wedding day look, keep it to yourself. I only want to hear your opinion if I look like a clown (which I won't because I've done about 3-4 run-throughs now). I want people around me who want to help and will listen to what I need/want and not do what they think I need/want. After all this is my ONLY wedding day so it has to be full of things that go right and wonderful memories.
This will probably be my last post until after the wedding. In 7 days I will no longer be LalaLovelyBride, I'll be LalaLovelyWife!!!
Friday, August 31, 2012
Just over a month...
Just over a month left until I say I do!! This is both exciting, nerve-racking and most of all stressful. I was hoping at this point that I wouldn't have much left to do. However, we don't have attire for the groom, the flowers are CRAZY expensive, I still need to finalize decorations for the reception and ceremony, taste and confirm the reception menu, book the hotel room for the bridesmaids and I to get ready, finish the alterations on my dress, pay off the photography, review the playlist with the DJ, select and purchase the groomsmen's gifts and attire, reception shoes(for me), welcome bags, and anything else that I'll remember as soon as I post this (becuase that is just how my life is lately!) OH and I really only have about the month of September to pull this off because lets face it. My birthday is 10 days before my wedding and I will have NO time to do anything then.
I have a meeting tomorrow with another florist to review styles and cost. Hopefully she will come in under budget. Otherwise the bridesmaids are getting fake flowers and I will order my bouquet online. I still have to figure out the decorations for the ceremony and put the finishing touches on the reception. However doing this usually requires money and since I've paid off the reception there really is no money to do anything else right now. FML (Did I mention that I have this sinking feeling that something is going to go horribly wrong soon? Like the reception hall catching on fire or tons of last minute cancellations.)
Decorations: The ceremony is at church and we have the large space, checkered carpet (that looks like it is yellow and green ish tones), green chairs, cream walls, no real setup for a grand entrance as a bride (short of entering from the back door and being seen by everyone who sits in the back on the left). So how to decorate the large space and still get the feel I want is going to be difficult. It will probably be a daily undertaking for the whole week prior to the wedding. Drop off decorations into a classroom Sunday evening, arrive Monday and decorate the chairs, arrive Tuesday and stage or decorate most of the other areas, then Wednesday set up the isle (and pray that no one messes with it during youth night), Thursday is the wedding so unless the boys go up in the morning and fix everything (which probably won't work or look the way I want it to) I don't know what to do.
The reception decorations are looking closer to what I want, I just need something to add height to the room. I can't decide what's missing. I know I want to some element of a tree but according to other people if we have too many things it is going to look cluttered. I want it to look elegant. I want it to feel special and welcoming. If I could have 2 tall elements per long table I would feel better. I can't picture everything together and I need to be able to see it otherwise I'm not going to like any of it. I want a candy bar and a photo booth station. I want everything to look like the picture that inspired the wedding colors.
I know that a wedding is just a party and if at the end of the day we are married then it went perfectly, BUT I want the pictures to reflect the years I have put into this and the overall feel that I'm trying to achieve. I know that there is more to write but right now I am exhausted and it's time to fall asleep.
I have a meeting tomorrow with another florist to review styles and cost. Hopefully she will come in under budget. Otherwise the bridesmaids are getting fake flowers and I will order my bouquet online. I still have to figure out the decorations for the ceremony and put the finishing touches on the reception. However doing this usually requires money and since I've paid off the reception there really is no money to do anything else right now. FML (Did I mention that I have this sinking feeling that something is going to go horribly wrong soon? Like the reception hall catching on fire or tons of last minute cancellations.)
Decorations: The ceremony is at church and we have the large space, checkered carpet (that looks like it is yellow and green ish tones), green chairs, cream walls, no real setup for a grand entrance as a bride (short of entering from the back door and being seen by everyone who sits in the back on the left). So how to decorate the large space and still get the feel I want is going to be difficult. It will probably be a daily undertaking for the whole week prior to the wedding. Drop off decorations into a classroom Sunday evening, arrive Monday and decorate the chairs, arrive Tuesday and stage or decorate most of the other areas, then Wednesday set up the isle (and pray that no one messes with it during youth night), Thursday is the wedding so unless the boys go up in the morning and fix everything (which probably won't work or look the way I want it to) I don't know what to do.
The reception decorations are looking closer to what I want, I just need something to add height to the room. I can't decide what's missing. I know I want to some element of a tree but according to other people if we have too many things it is going to look cluttered. I want it to look elegant. I want it to feel special and welcoming. If I could have 2 tall elements per long table I would feel better. I can't picture everything together and I need to be able to see it otherwise I'm not going to like any of it. I want a candy bar and a photo booth station. I want everything to look like the picture that inspired the wedding colors.
I know that a wedding is just a party and if at the end of the day we are married then it went perfectly, BUT I want the pictures to reflect the years I have put into this and the overall feel that I'm trying to achieve. I know that there is more to write but right now I am exhausted and it's time to fall asleep.
Friday, August 3, 2012
What I want...
Lately I've been feeling a little bit insecure about many things mainly including upcoming wedding events. I have my bridal shower and my joint bachelor/bachelorette party coming up and I don't know how to be the center of attention and feel comfortable. I have a constant one sided headache and the medicine that I take for it made me gain a few pounds that I'm not entirely comfortable with. So I guess what I am struggling with is trying to feel special when nothing seems to fit, shopping is frustrating and all I really want to do is curl up in a ball and hope that when I wake up I will feel better. When I pick out what I want to wear to these special events I can't find things that make me match the emotions that I want to feel. This is a special moment in my life and I want to feel that way but right now I just don't. I don't want to have to plan these events or buy things to make. I want to show up, play games, open gifts and enjoy myself. Unfortunately I have to take part in the planning because it wasn't taken on my others in my wedding party.
There have been a few people who tell me to let them know if they can help or what I'd like them to do but the truth is I don't know what they can do because I don't always know what I want. I have ideas but I have a feeling if I let others pick up things to me or take over tasks that it won't come out the way I'd like and then it'd be a wasted effort. I have mixed feelings about asking for help because in the past when I did I got everyone else's opinions and no one asked what I wanted. Instead of waiting for me to ask for help look things up that could be helpful.
I went out with my sister today and did the one thing I didn't want to do. I cried. I don't like to talk about what is bothering me and the reasons I'm frustrated. I grateful for some ideas but I'm not sure if I like the information I get. I want the wedding to reflect who I am and the relationship I have with my future husband. I don't want it to be full of things that other people picked for me. At the same time I want it to look like everything belongs as far a decorations go. I ordered something that I thought would work and be a lovely center piece and missed the fact that what I was ordering was actually very small. :( I guess I just frustrated with everything and can't make up my mind on what I want help with, what I need help with and what I really want my way about.
I want what I want and there just seems like no way to get it. I want to feel healthy, beautiful and special. I want to think of my wedding be able to look forward to it and not think that everything could go wrong. I thought I'd get a lot more done by now with two months left but I guess I'm just lost. I don't know what to do, where to go, what I should do next.
I still need attire for the men in the bridal party, flowers, ceremony and reception decorations, to taste and confirm the reception menu, cars, the DJ must play and don't play lists, meet up with the photographer and go over looks. I still need to find an outfit for the parties that are coming up and how I will make myself feel special. I'm not comfortable in my own body and going to my last dress fitting and praying that the dress will zip all the way many that feeling compound. I've tried on a few dresses and most of them do fit the way I'd like, it they do if they don't make me feel special so it seems very pointless to keep going shopping.
Just my thoughts.... take them as you will......
There have been a few people who tell me to let them know if they can help or what I'd like them to do but the truth is I don't know what they can do because I don't always know what I want. I have ideas but I have a feeling if I let others pick up things to me or take over tasks that it won't come out the way I'd like and then it'd be a wasted effort. I have mixed feelings about asking for help because in the past when I did I got everyone else's opinions and no one asked what I wanted. Instead of waiting for me to ask for help look things up that could be helpful.
I went out with my sister today and did the one thing I didn't want to do. I cried. I don't like to talk about what is bothering me and the reasons I'm frustrated. I grateful for some ideas but I'm not sure if I like the information I get. I want the wedding to reflect who I am and the relationship I have with my future husband. I don't want it to be full of things that other people picked for me. At the same time I want it to look like everything belongs as far a decorations go. I ordered something that I thought would work and be a lovely center piece and missed the fact that what I was ordering was actually very small. :( I guess I just frustrated with everything and can't make up my mind on what I want help with, what I need help with and what I really want my way about.
I want what I want and there just seems like no way to get it. I want to feel healthy, beautiful and special. I want to think of my wedding be able to look forward to it and not think that everything could go wrong. I thought I'd get a lot more done by now with two months left but I guess I'm just lost. I don't know what to do, where to go, what I should do next.
I still need attire for the men in the bridal party, flowers, ceremony and reception decorations, to taste and confirm the reception menu, cars, the DJ must play and don't play lists, meet up with the photographer and go over looks. I still need to find an outfit for the parties that are coming up and how I will make myself feel special. I'm not comfortable in my own body and going to my last dress fitting and praying that the dress will zip all the way many that feeling compound. I've tried on a few dresses and most of them do fit the way I'd like, it they do if they don't make me feel special so it seems very pointless to keep going shopping.
Just my thoughts.... take them as you will......
Thursday, July 26, 2012
Inspiration ...
comes from the most unexpected places. I went to the farmers market this morning and found some wonderful breads and fresh produce. This struck me with inspiration for the bridal shower menu.
Baked Ziti, Bruschetta, Fresh salad, mini Rosemary bread grilled cheeses, roasted veggies... with almost all the ingredients coming from the farmers market. I overheard a few women talking about how the produce is still fresh and crisp a week later and tastes like if was just picked that morning. This is the type of thing that we don't get when we shop at Albertson's, Vons or Smiths. Where I live there is a farmers market every Thursday from 10am - 4pm. With the Bridal shower being held on Saturday I could pick up the fresh produce that I need and have plenty of time to prep and make the items. Not to mention we could pick up fresh fruit to snack on or use in desserts. My mouth is watering just thinking about all this fresh and wonderful food. =D
Menu:
Roma Tomato, basil bruschetta (with optional shredded parmesian cheese topping)
Baked Ziti
Rosemary grilled cheese
Salad - Green leafy lettuce, grape tomatoes, cuecumbers, bell peppers, carrots, other assorted veggies
Pitta chips with humas (maybe haven't tried this but sounds interesting)
Roasted eggplant, zucini, squash, potatoes, onions, carrots, etc. (whatever I see that would look and taste yummy together)
Desserts,
Fresh fruit
cupcakes
fruit tarts or shortcakes
French Macaroons (I might have to buy these but I really want to try them because they don't have coconut!!)
Iced teas, Fresh Lemonades, Italian Sodas and punch to drink!!
I think we have a menu!! :)
Baked Ziti, Bruschetta, Fresh salad, mini Rosemary bread grilled cheeses, roasted veggies... with almost all the ingredients coming from the farmers market. I overheard a few women talking about how the produce is still fresh and crisp a week later and tastes like if was just picked that morning. This is the type of thing that we don't get when we shop at Albertson's, Vons or Smiths. Where I live there is a farmers market every Thursday from 10am - 4pm. With the Bridal shower being held on Saturday I could pick up the fresh produce that I need and have plenty of time to prep and make the items. Not to mention we could pick up fresh fruit to snack on or use in desserts. My mouth is watering just thinking about all this fresh and wonderful food. =D
Menu:
Roma Tomato, basil bruschetta (with optional shredded parmesian cheese topping)
Baked Ziti
Rosemary grilled cheese
Salad - Green leafy lettuce, grape tomatoes, cuecumbers, bell peppers, carrots, other assorted veggies
Pitta chips with humas (maybe haven't tried this but sounds interesting)
Roasted eggplant, zucini, squash, potatoes, onions, carrots, etc. (whatever I see that would look and taste yummy together)
Desserts,
Fresh fruit
cupcakes
fruit tarts or shortcakes
French Macaroons (I might have to buy these but I really want to try them because they don't have coconut!!)
Iced teas, Fresh Lemonades, Italian Sodas and punch to drink!!
I think we have a menu!! :)
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Bridal Shower Wish List
So my bridal shower is coming up and I was trying to think about things that I reaFlly, really hope that I receive. I recently went to Sephora and found a wedding look that is just want I wanted (at least the eye portion). So I would really like to get some of the items from the Too Faced collection. I like the natural eye pallet and their eyeliner(it's like a pencil blended with a liquid). I'd also be interested in trying Kat Von D's tattooed eyeliner in black. When looking through my makeup collection I realized that black eyeliner is something that I don't have yet.
There are a lot of items on my registry that I'd like. I really, really, really, REALLY want a Kitchen-aid Stand Mixer!!! (I know it's a long shot but I REALLY want one!!) I want a cakepop maker/pan. I like the idea of making cake pops I'm just not a big fan of frosting so a cakepop that is all cake would be amazing.
Traditional Items: A monogrammed robe would be adorable. Mrs. hoodie to get ready in for the wedding day(matching sweats would also be wonderful). Reception shoes I'm looking into getting a pair or two of Toms sneakers (One pair to try before the wedding, one for the wedding reception). They have a cute pair of ivory grosgrain shoes. They look like they are made out of ribbon. They also have a pair that are sparkly but I have mixed feelings about that pair. Anything in my favorite colors, polka dots, and/or bows. Charms for my charm bracelets, accessories for the wedding. (I'm still looking for a hair comb or some type of hair accessory) Picture frames and other sentimental items. I want to be able to look back at this experience and have happy memories. I don't want to be worried that I didn't get what I really wanted or what I hoped for.
Along with thinking about the bridal shower I keep thinking about what I am going to wear to the bridal shower and for the rehearsal/ rehearsal dinner. My bridal shower has a 1950s housewife theme and it represents my love of things classic and vintage. I want something simple, understated yet elegant. I love this picture -------> It represents the feel of the look I'm going for. Simple, elegant and classy. (I would even attempt to keep the heels on for as long as possible.)
Well this is all I can think of for now. I'll add more if I think of anything. Check out my pintrest page for a lot more about me.
I found this list on my phone. I guess I forgot about it until after I posted this.
There are a lot of items on my registry that I'd like. I really, really, really, REALLY want a Kitchen-aid Stand Mixer!!! (I know it's a long shot but I REALLY want one!!) I want a cakepop maker/pan. I like the idea of making cake pops I'm just not a big fan of frosting so a cakepop that is all cake would be amazing. Traditional Items: A monogrammed robe would be adorable. Mrs. hoodie to get ready in for the wedding day(matching sweats would also be wonderful). Reception shoes I'm looking into getting a pair or two of Toms sneakers (One pair to try before the wedding, one for the wedding reception). They have a cute pair of ivory grosgrain shoes. They look like they are made out of ribbon. They also have a pair that are sparkly but I have mixed feelings about that pair. Anything in my favorite colors, polka dots, and/or bows. Charms for my charm bracelets, accessories for the wedding. (I'm still looking for a hair comb or some type of hair accessory) Picture frames and other sentimental items. I want to be able to look back at this experience and have happy memories. I don't want to be worried that I didn't get what I really wanted or what I hoped for. Along with thinking about the bridal shower I keep thinking about what I am going to wear to the bridal shower and for the rehearsal/ rehearsal dinner. My bridal shower has a 1950s housewife theme and it represents my love of things classic and vintage. I want something simple, understated yet elegant. I love this picture -------> It represents the feel of the look I'm going for. Simple, elegant and classy. (I would even attempt to keep the heels on for as long as possible.)
Well this is all I can think of for now. I'll add more if I think of anything. Check out my pintrest page for a lot more about me. I found this list on my phone. I guess I forgot about it until after I posted this.
Bridal shower wish list:
- Mandolin slicer
- Spice rack with spices
- Kitchenaid mixer
- Food processor
- Storage canisters (for flour, sugar)
- Casserole dishes
- Cooking utensils
- Cutting boards
- Knife set
- Soda streem
- Grill pan and griddle pan
- General home Storage
- General girly items... Lingerie, sleepware, bridal sweats, TOMS sneakers, bare minerals makeup
Saturday, July 21, 2012
Less than 3 months to go...
At this point in the wedding planning process I figured I'd have a lot more done. I wanted to get everything done this summer so that I knew I'd have time to relax. Well as we are full aware things in my world don't go as planned. Stress with work and other things has kept me from doing everything I wanted. The limitations placed on decor by the venue are proving to be a challenge and I can't figure out a clear idea of what I want. Every time I think about my wedding lately it causes nothing but stress. People tell me to ask for help or let them know if I need anything but I'm not sure how to verbalize that I need WAY too many things done and the people I would love to turn to for help are doing nothing but adding more stress. I should be elated that my Bridal shower is coming up soon and that the joint bachelor/bachelorette party is later that night but I'm just worried that none of it will work out and that it will be an EPIC fail just like my birthday usually is...(which my birthday so happens to be 10 days before my wedding) .
I would love to just order the bird cage centerpieces that I saw on etsy that I love but I can't seem to make up my mind as to what overall look I want when everyone walks into the reception.
I have ideas of what I want (and they would all require a different locale a huge tent with chandeliers, fabric draped walls, a beautiful view, flowers everywhere, candles lit on every table, a huge dance floor, open bar with signature cocktail, long tables with food served family style and have the backdrop of a stary night sky) and what I don't (a few random decorations that look tacky and do not match what so ever). At times I wish that I am just dreaming that that everything will come together beautifully but I'm beginning to have my doubts.
I've started the alterations on my bridal gown (I am not doing them myself, David's Bridal is) and I'm still not sure of the overall look that I want for when I walk down the isle. I know part of the issue is the lack of self confidence I have right now. As of lately I have not liked the way my body looks in anything and it is something the ripples through when I go clothes shopping. (This is probably why I'm leaning towards a themed bridal shower versus the ones I've seen or been to in the past.) I would love the traditional stuff (getting ready items for the wedding day and the other really girly stuff) but I feel out of my element in that area and I don't want to be embarrassed by any gift that I receive.
I wish I felt more confident all around with everything that I am doing but I'm beginning to doubt myself in all aspects of my life. I'm constantly frustrated with everything that I attempt to do or project I take on. I wanted to be a very DIY Bride and take pride in knowing that many aspects of my wedding were going to be designed, assembled or crafted by me. But now it seems like a huge burden that I don't want to take on. A few people have tried to be helpful but they don't know most of the information that they would need to help. I can't figure out the flower arrangements and when I would find the time to assemble them and store them to have handy for the day of the wedding. Not to mention the cost of flower if I choose not to do it myself have order them from a florist. I really don't want to pay someone over $100 per bouquet when I can make them all for $80-150 total.
There has been a few times recently where I just want to throw in the towel and say good riddens to the whole thing. I can't figure out what I need because I don't know what has been purchased by others on my behalf. I more worried about paying off the things I contracted to do (venue, photographer, cake, catering, hotel room block, etc.) rather then getting everything decorated, welcome baskets assembled, etc. Why can't I just have the fairy tale that is in my head? My subconscious response is that real life is not a fairy tale but my hearts says that your wedding should be like one. It should be the story of your love for the person that you are joining your life to. By the end of October I will have promised to love, honor and cherish a wonderful man whom's love I couldn't bear to be without. Because in the end...(this photo says it best)
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Just over 100 days....
There is just over 100 days until my wedding and there is still a lot to get done. Dresses need to be altered, decor needs to be purchased/rented/DIYed, the attire for the men still needs to be picked out and purchased or rented, flowers need to be ordered, hotel rooms need to be blocked off and this is just the list of things that I can think of. I'm sure there is a lot I'm forgetting. Which reminds me, I also need to add getting the marriage license to my list (but that can wait until September). I also need to finalize the must play and don't play lists for the DJ.
I'm still debating a few different things. Do I want to make my own floral arrangements and bouquets or should I have a florist make the bouquets? If I do them myself will I have time? Can they be stored properly? Will they look nice? If I have them made, can I afford it? Who will pick them up? Is delivery extra and where would I have things delivered? There are plenty of alternatives to fresh flowers, but I know that I want my bouquet to be fresh, real flowers. I love hydrangeas, orchids, peonies, roses, calla lilies, camellias, mums and many other flowers that I don't know the names of (like the green flower/plant in the photo at right.)
I'm still searching for decor for the reception that will look pretty and follow the guidelines of the venue. I can't have open flames, or put anything on the walls or ceiling so I'm kinda stuck for ideas. There are things that I see in pictures that I love and then I can't figure out how to make it work in my space with my budget.
As far as attire is concerned, the groom and the other men need complete outfits. So far I have a tie for the groom and nothing else. My dress is in for alterations. We started with the hem, next will be the bustle and buttons. I still need to make a final decision about the beading on my dress and the accessories that I will wear. My MOHs have different dresses in the same fabric that fit them each nicely. I don't know if they need alterations or not, if they do I hope they start on them soon.
I'm hoping to get both the moms and other important guests to wear the same color so that they complement the bridal party in photographs.
My wedding colors seem to have grown a little to (shades's by David's Bridal) Jade, Peacock, Ivory, Silver and Black. It is a beautiful color combination.
I'm still searching for decor for the reception that will look pretty and follow the guidelines of the venue. I can't have open flames, or put anything on the walls or ceiling so I'm kinda stuck for ideas. There are things that I see in pictures that I love and then I can't figure out how to make it work in my space with my budget.
As far as attire is concerned, the groom and the other men need complete outfits. So far I have a tie for the groom and nothing else. My dress is in for alterations. We started with the hem, next will be the bustle and buttons. I still need to make a final decision about the beading on my dress and the accessories that I will wear. My MOHs have different dresses in the same fabric that fit them each nicely. I don't know if they need alterations or not, if they do I hope they start on them soon.
I'm hoping to get both the moms and other important guests to wear the same color so that they complement the bridal party in photographs.
My wedding colors seem to have grown a little to (shades's by David's Bridal) Jade, Peacock, Ivory, Silver and Black. It is a beautiful color combination.
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Bridal Shower Games
PURSE BINGO
Each guest holds her purse in front of her while someone reads a list of items that might be found inside. Whoever pulls the item out of her purse first wins a prize. The list begins with common things such as lipstick, but gets rowdier when unusual objects are announced, from a sewing kit to a toothbrush.
SAFETY PINS
Each guest is given a safety pin upon her arrival that affixes to her clothing. If she mentions a predetermined word, such as "wedding" or the groom's name, another guest (whoever is quickest) can take her safety pin. The guest who winds up with the most safety pins wins.
MARRIAGE RECIPE
Give everyone recipe cards and ask them to write down a creative recipe for a good marriage. Then have the bride read them aloud and try to guess who wrote what.
CELEBRITY
As each guest arrives, stick the name of a celebrity on his/her back so that they can look at everyone else's tag but are unable to see their own. Each guest needs to figure out who they are by asking yes or no questions to others.
THE DATING GAME
Before the shower, ask the bride a list of questions about herself and the groom (i.e., "When was your first kiss?"), making sure that she keeps her answers a secret. At the shower, give everyone a list of the questions and let them fill out what they think the answers are. The couple will sit on chairs in front of everyone and the groom answers each question, "Dating Game" style. Whoever gets the most answers right wins a prize.
Use the ribbons and bows from the gifts to make a "bouquet" that the bride can carry down the aisle at the wedding rehearsal. Simply make a small hole in a paper plate and pull the ribbon and bows through. Leave enough slack on the bottom so the bride can grasp the bouquet. If there's enough ribbon and bows left over after making the first bouquet, make another one for the bachelorette party, where the bride can get some practice on throwing her bouquet if she plans on having a bouquet toss.
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
seating charts
Who makes the rules for seating charts and why do they have to be sooooo complicated. I figured that I would conquer something that should be simple and not very time consuming. It is proving to be more difficult than I thought. Part of me says that you are all adults and can seat yourselves, the other part of says I don't want chaos so I should just tell people where to sit. While looking at the seating chart it seems like there is no way to not upset someone. Either all the tables will be filled up with family or families will be split. I have this vision in my mind of how I want the tables to be setup and that doesn't seem like a possibility with the seating and who will want to sit with whom. I can't fit everyone that I need to at the same table and if I put some of them at the other table they will be offended. Why does everyone have to have such a big family? I love both of the seating arrangements pictured below but I don't have nearly that much space. Along with the task of seating I am working on decor for the reception. I can't have candles everywhere because we can't have open flames, I can't afford to have flowers everywhere so really what can I use? Balloons? tissue paper flowers? I can't hang things on the walls (which also limits what I can do). I'm really stuck at this point and have no clue where to begin. Now I understand why people hire wedding planners.
Friday, June 1, 2012
132 days to go!
So summer is approaching, which means time to get all of my final wedding plans completed. My goal for summer is to complete the seating chart, place cards, menus/programs, and pretty much anything wedding related including the Bridal Shower and Bachelorette party.
Some of this would be easier to do if I had help from other people who I felt were there to support me. I don't think I will be able to keep my goal of stressfree wedding planning as I have been more stressed that I would like. Recently I spoke my mind and now I doubt that I have a support system at all. I am getting some help from a few people but I don't want to open up completely to them and feel like a burden. One thing I am looking forward to is a joint bachelor/bachelorette party.
I'm still trying to figure out how to have everything I want and keep within my budget. I want beautiful flowers and the wedding on my dreams. I want to relax and just enjoy myself. I want to have someone else finish out the planning so that I can be wowed by what is happening on my actual wedding day. I want a day that is elegantly simple, maybe a little understated but you don't notice anything truly missing. Right now the dreams I have for my wedding day are soooo far from reality. I would love to have a ton of flowers and a day that felt really romantic. If I lived somewhere else I would try to get married in a garden and have a tented reception with fabric draped walls, soft lighting, long tabled with floral and candle center places, Family style dining and all night dancing. A girl can dream... if it was a fairy tale it'd all come true with a wish (believe me, I've tried, it ain't gonna happen).
There is still so much to do: alterations, BMs dresses, flowers, Music, paying off vendors, food tasting, everything for the reception and anything else that I forgot to think about.
Some of this would be easier to do if I had help from other people who I felt were there to support me. I don't think I will be able to keep my goal of stressfree wedding planning as I have been more stressed that I would like. Recently I spoke my mind and now I doubt that I have a support system at all. I am getting some help from a few people but I don't want to open up completely to them and feel like a burden. One thing I am looking forward to is a joint bachelor/bachelorette party.
I'm still trying to figure out how to have everything I want and keep within my budget. I want beautiful flowers and the wedding on my dreams. I want to relax and just enjoy myself. I want to have someone else finish out the planning so that I can be wowed by what is happening on my actual wedding day. I want a day that is elegantly simple, maybe a little understated but you don't notice anything truly missing. Right now the dreams I have for my wedding day are soooo far from reality. I would love to have a ton of flowers and a day that felt really romantic. If I lived somewhere else I would try to get married in a garden and have a tented reception with fabric draped walls, soft lighting, long tabled with floral and candle center places, Family style dining and all night dancing. A girl can dream... if it was a fairy tale it'd all come true with a wish (believe me, I've tried, it ain't gonna happen).
There is still so much to do: alterations, BMs dresses, flowers, Music, paying off vendors, food tasting, everything for the reception and anything else that I forgot to think about.
Friday, May 11, 2012
I'm over it
So let's be honest today, when it comes to wedding planning lately I'm over it. I feel like I have no support and no voice. It's my wedding but it doesn't feel like it lately. I feel like I have to do everything myself and that I can't count on anyone for help. Every aspect of my "stress free wedding planning" has been nothing but drama. I know in the end it's all about the marriage but that doesn't change the fact that I have to plan events that should be hosted in my honor. I can't seem to feel comfortable in my wedding dress or develop a plan for how to be comfortable. I just keep thinking back to the day I was dress shopping and trying to pick dresses. I was so not ready to pick a dress and it seems like when the words, "I think so" came out of my mouth everything started being picked for me instead of asking what I was really thinking or what I wanted. I really wanted to keep looking and come back. Instead I had a deposit on a dress and by the end of the summer I had a dress hanging in my closet. In a few short months after that my wedding did a complete 180 from the original plan of a relaxing, casual, simple church ceremony with bowling reception to a romantic, yet understated elegant ceremony and reception. I'm still trying to have a little fun with my wedding but I just can't get over everything that is going wrong. I feel like my bridal party is falling apart and that I have to support myself. I can't get an honest opinion from anyone and all this wedding stress just makes me want to run and hide.
I honestly can't take it if something goes wrong with this day. I feel like it'll all be my fault because I'm the one planning it. I have great ideas for what I would like but I have no one to depend on but me and I can't figure out how to execute the thoughts in my head. It's difficult to try to do things when everyone is so far apart or so busy. I would love to share my ideas with my bridesmaids and have them help me with things but I can't. Such is life!! I would love to be able to talk about ideas and what I want without the opinions of others. I wish I felt like I had the support of those around me but I feel nothing but judgement. I asked my fiancee his opinion about something and pretty much bit his head off because it wasn't what I wanted to hear. I wasn't looking for simple words. I wanted a detailed opinion, I wanted feedback. I wanted to hear the words of doubt that I have in my brain coming out of someone else's mouth. I wanted my worries to be confirmed or washed away, what I got felt like a cliche. I don't know what I need at this point, but what I do know is I ether need someone to help me do things or tell the next person who tries to put in their opinion on my day to write it down, put it in a box and shove it when the sun don't shine because I could care less. I get a lot of input about things I never asked about and no one in turn asks what I was thinking. Here's a thought for a change, maybe I changed my wedding because I was tried of people not calling me back, maybe I changed the dresses because it fit more of what my dream wedding would be like, MAYBE I don't like my dress because I don't feel like I'm the one who picked it, maybe the best part about my wedding is the fact that I get to marry the man I love because that is the only part worth wile at the moment. Everything else seems for show and not worth my time.
Today I figured out how to blend the ideas that I have for my bridal shower. I would like a 1950s housewife theme with a blend of the Alphabet. Have people bring their favorite recipes and use the gift tags we could include with the invites to spell out my name. We could play some simple games and have a few treats; maybe a slight tea party. But unless my fairy godmother comes to visit and makes my dreams come true I'll probably skip this experience too. Just like I plan to do for my bachelorette party because what fun is a girls night celebrating someone if no one wants to participate and the bride has to plan it.
I just want to pull away and say do whatever you want that doesn't require me to do anything because other than the cake and the photos nothing really feels like me. I suppose the best part of the wedding will be the vows because that will be from the heart. Nothing seems to go as planed so why bother planning!!!
I honestly can't take it if something goes wrong with this day. I feel like it'll all be my fault because I'm the one planning it. I have great ideas for what I would like but I have no one to depend on but me and I can't figure out how to execute the thoughts in my head. It's difficult to try to do things when everyone is so far apart or so busy. I would love to share my ideas with my bridesmaids and have them help me with things but I can't. Such is life!! I would love to be able to talk about ideas and what I want without the opinions of others. I wish I felt like I had the support of those around me but I feel nothing but judgement. I asked my fiancee his opinion about something and pretty much bit his head off because it wasn't what I wanted to hear. I wasn't looking for simple words. I wanted a detailed opinion, I wanted feedback. I wanted to hear the words of doubt that I have in my brain coming out of someone else's mouth. I wanted my worries to be confirmed or washed away, what I got felt like a cliche. I don't know what I need at this point, but what I do know is I ether need someone to help me do things or tell the next person who tries to put in their opinion on my day to write it down, put it in a box and shove it when the sun don't shine because I could care less. I get a lot of input about things I never asked about and no one in turn asks what I was thinking. Here's a thought for a change, maybe I changed my wedding because I was tried of people not calling me back, maybe I changed the dresses because it fit more of what my dream wedding would be like, MAYBE I don't like my dress because I don't feel like I'm the one who picked it, maybe the best part about my wedding is the fact that I get to marry the man I love because that is the only part worth wile at the moment. Everything else seems for show and not worth my time.
Today I figured out how to blend the ideas that I have for my bridal shower. I would like a 1950s housewife theme with a blend of the Alphabet. Have people bring their favorite recipes and use the gift tags we could include with the invites to spell out my name. We could play some simple games and have a few treats; maybe a slight tea party. But unless my fairy godmother comes to visit and makes my dreams come true I'll probably skip this experience too. Just like I plan to do for my bachelorette party because what fun is a girls night celebrating someone if no one wants to participate and the bride has to plan it.
I just want to pull away and say do whatever you want that doesn't require me to do anything because other than the cake and the photos nothing really feels like me. I suppose the best part of the wedding will be the vows because that will be from the heart. Nothing seems to go as planed so why bother planning!!!
Monday, May 7, 2012
Bridal Shower
So my wedding is quickly approaching... before I know it summer will be here and then my wedding!!! There is still so much to do and despite my best efforts it's becoming a little stressful. I believe that some of my RSVPs have been lost in the mail, that I may have to plan days that should have been planned for me and that I will have a ton to do and not a lot of time. I found some helpful advice on theKnot.com about tips and ideas. What I would really love is to have someone plan something simple yet fun and representative of me. I love the idea of a 1950's Housewife Bridal Shower but I also like the idea of an Alphabet shower which is themed in the Bride's name. So I guess the theme is really up to the person willing to host my Bridal Shower. I know that there are traditions and etiquette for these sorts of things but I seem to be on the short end here. I only have two bridesmaids, one who lives in state and one who lives out of state. So how do I suppose that one person will be willing to throw me a party alone?
I don't however I don't want to do it myself either. My hope is that it will all work out and that I will have a wonderful bridal shower. I am more than willing to skip the bachelorette party. The traditional "last night of freedom" wildness is not my style. What I can't seem to understand is, why can't you invite anyone you want to your bridal shower? Why should it be limited to only those invited to the wedding? I have some good friends that I would love to spend time with but can't afford to invite them to the reception so why can't I share the wonderful occasion with everyone I want to have there?
So for my Bridal Shower:
* I found some cute invites at Target
* When, Where, What time?
* Who to invite?
What I really want?
something classy and elegant
to feel special and loved
to feel important
to relax and have a little fun
I don't however I don't want to do it myself either. My hope is that it will all work out and that I will have a wonderful bridal shower. I am more than willing to skip the bachelorette party. The traditional "last night of freedom" wildness is not my style. What I can't seem to understand is, why can't you invite anyone you want to your bridal shower? Why should it be limited to only those invited to the wedding? I have some good friends that I would love to spend time with but can't afford to invite them to the reception so why can't I share the wonderful occasion with everyone I want to have there?
So for my Bridal Shower:
* I found some cute invites at Target
* When, Where, What time?
* Who to invite?
What I really want?
something classy and elegant
to feel special and loved
to feel important
to relax and have a little fun
Monday, April 16, 2012
Wedding worthy songs and other things on my mind
So I see lists and lists of wedding songs. Everything from first dance to father daughter dances to music to keep the party going. I was just thinking about some of my favorites.
I knew I loved you before I met you by Savage Garden
God Gave me you by Blake Shelton
Then by Brad Paisley
Could not ask for more by Sara Evans or Edwin McCain
Can't touch this by M.C. Hammer (an old favorite of my fiancee and I)
Ice Ice Baby by Vanilla Ice
You by Chris Young
My Little Girl by Tim McGraw (my favorite Father Daughter Song)
Old Time Rock and Roll by bob Segar
All you need is love by the Beatles
L-O-V-E by Nat King Cole
Marry me by Train
Wedding Dress by Matt Nathanson
Sooo with the music listed (I'm sure there's more but I can't keep track) it's time to get to the other things on my mind. I know there are some traditions that most brides follow but lately there are many that I'd like to skip. I'm pretty sure that I would like to skip the bachelorette party at least in the traditional sense. I'm all for a nice night out with my girl friends or some fun but I'd rather not have a crazy "last night out" I don't want to drink tooo much or go party it up in Vegas. I want something much more me. I'm still trying to figure out how to have my bridal shower without it being too corny. I feel like it is my job to plan a lot of this. I know it supposed to be for my bridesmaids to plan but one lives out of state and the other is often as busy as I am. Knowing that we have a limited budget I'd rather just have my bridal shower and then grab dinner with some good friends. There are a few other traditions that I would love to break but I haven't decided what I want to do. At times I wish I had a fairy godmother to make all my dreams and wishes come true but at the same time if they all did come true what would my wedding day look like. Maybe it would be a garden in a beautiful winery and I'd be wearing my dream dress, (or even better the dress I sketched!). My groom would look dashing in a custom suit and take my breath away and much as I will his. I'd have a beautiful hand-tied bouquet of peonies, hydrangea, and dahlias. The best part of all would be the most memorable day of true love shared between my groom and I. This last part will ring true no matter what the day, I just hope it will be everything I want, everything I've dreamed of and everything I hoped it could be. I love my fiancee with all my heart and the day I marry him will be the happiest day of my life.
I knew I loved you before I met you by Savage Garden
God Gave me you by Blake Shelton
Then by Brad Paisley
Could not ask for more by Sara Evans or Edwin McCain
Can't touch this by M.C. Hammer (an old favorite of my fiancee and I)
Ice Ice Baby by Vanilla Ice
You by Chris Young
My Little Girl by Tim McGraw (my favorite Father Daughter Song)
Old Time Rock and Roll by bob Segar
All you need is love by the Beatles
L-O-V-E by Nat King Cole
Marry me by Train
Wedding Dress by Matt Nathanson
Sooo with the music listed (I'm sure there's more but I can't keep track) it's time to get to the other things on my mind. I know there are some traditions that most brides follow but lately there are many that I'd like to skip. I'm pretty sure that I would like to skip the bachelorette party at least in the traditional sense. I'm all for a nice night out with my girl friends or some fun but I'd rather not have a crazy "last night out" I don't want to drink tooo much or go party it up in Vegas. I want something much more me. I'm still trying to figure out how to have my bridal shower without it being too corny. I feel like it is my job to plan a lot of this. I know it supposed to be for my bridesmaids to plan but one lives out of state and the other is often as busy as I am. Knowing that we have a limited budget I'd rather just have my bridal shower and then grab dinner with some good friends. There are a few other traditions that I would love to break but I haven't decided what I want to do. At times I wish I had a fairy godmother to make all my dreams and wishes come true but at the same time if they all did come true what would my wedding day look like. Maybe it would be a garden in a beautiful winery and I'd be wearing my dream dress, (or even better the dress I sketched!). My groom would look dashing in a custom suit and take my breath away and much as I will his. I'd have a beautiful hand-tied bouquet of peonies, hydrangea, and dahlias. The best part of all would be the most memorable day of true love shared between my groom and I. This last part will ring true no matter what the day, I just hope it will be everything I want, everything I've dreamed of and everything I hoped it could be. I love my fiancee with all my heart and the day I marry him will be the happiest day of my life.
Wedding Reception Theme
As the planning continues we seem to be developing a romantic, nature theme. Our cake has tree branches and birds similar to our invitations. We also love the idea of having trees as center pieces at the reception. We are truly inspired by the photo on the right. I love the all around look. I want lots of emerald/jade green with black and ivory complements as well as silver accents. I wish I could just pull my favorite parts out of this photo and just place them in my wedding. That would make me truly happy. I'm still looking for more decor and things to guide our theme without making it too cliche.
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
What do you do next...
So lately when I think about my wedding I think about it in 3 ways: What I love, What I like and What I still need to do.
So What I love about my wedding: are the people involved, the love I share with my groom, the date and time of year. The ideas I have for flowers and decor (now if only I could make them make sense to others or had a limitless budget to pull it all off). I love the photos that we are going to get from our WONDERFUL photographer. I love that my dad is going to walk me down the isle. Our wedding cake!! I never thought I'd say that I love my wedding cake (I'm not really into cake)
What I like... the day that we are planning. It's not our original plan but it will work for us and hopefully be everything we want. I like my dress ( I wish I would have waited longer to purchase it and spoke up for what I really wanted. I guess I feel like I settled a little bit. Part of me wishes I would have picked the dress that made me smile) I like the food we have picked out (haven't tasted it yet but I like the menu) I like the guest list. I hope the people we want can make it. I like the gifts we've registered for and the ideas I have for the bridal shower.
What I still need to do.... finalize the guest count, complete my to-do list (I have know clue what's on the list, and pay for EVERYTHING!!
So What I love about my wedding: are the people involved, the love I share with my groom, the date and time of year. The ideas I have for flowers and decor (now if only I could make them make sense to others or had a limitless budget to pull it all off). I love the photos that we are going to get from our WONDERFUL photographer. I love that my dad is going to walk me down the isle. Our wedding cake!! I never thought I'd say that I love my wedding cake (I'm not really into cake)
What I like... the day that we are planning. It's not our original plan but it will work for us and hopefully be everything we want. I like my dress ( I wish I would have waited longer to purchase it and spoke up for what I really wanted. I guess I feel like I settled a little bit. Part of me wishes I would have picked the dress that made me smile) I like the food we have picked out (haven't tasted it yet but I like the menu) I like the guest list. I hope the people we want can make it. I like the gifts we've registered for and the ideas I have for the bridal shower.
What I still need to do.... finalize the guest count, complete my to-do list (I have know clue what's on the list, and pay for EVERYTHING!!
Friday, March 16, 2012
a little defeated...
So lately wedding plans have been getting on my nerves. Nothing seems to go the way I would like it to and it's making me wonder why I wanted to have this big ordeal anyway. Lately it seems like nothing can go our way. I really wanted a stress free day that I could enjoy but the problems I run into with planning make me want to just run off an elope. Why should I spend all this money on a wedding if it's not everything I want? Originally I wanted to do something a little different, a little fun and something very us. But when that didn't pan out I had to develop plan B (or maybe it's C, D or E at this point).
Our wedding seems to becoming more and more traditional and less and less about us. Because of all of the changes I find myself second guessing many of my decisions. I'm second guessing things that are too expensive to change and wanting to change things that haven't been purchased yet. I really want to get the day that I'm picturing in my head, but it's difficult to see it that way at the moment. Some of the people we really want to attend can't make it and that makes me sad. This day is once in a lifetime (if done right) and isn't easy to recreate. Of everything I picked our over a year ago, the number 1 thing I got was photography. I love her work and she is so easy to work with. I think she makes us both feel comfortable.
I'm sad that other people keep trying to make decision for us and for our day. Recently we tried to find another dress for my sister for to wear to the wedding. And it was proving difficult because of her size. After going to two stores and discussing the idea over dinner, my mom decided that it'd be easier to take her out of the wedding. No one seems to understand that I was looking forward to possibly shareing something special with my sister and although replacing her dress would be a little pricey it could bring us a little closer.
Because many people keep trying to influence my day, I feel like pulling away from them. I don't want to talk to my mom or sister or anyone really other than my fiancee and my dad. Even when I do talk to them I hold back a lot of how I am feeling. I almost opened up completely the other day but I knew if I let my guard down, I'd probably cry with how frustrated I've been. I'm only in the planning stages but I feel like I'm going to hate my wedding. I'm really looking forward to the marriage part but the wedding is upsetting me. I'm not one to be the center of attention and neither is my fiancee.
Well I guess that's all for now. I'm tired and have to work tomorrow.
Our wedding seems to becoming more and more traditional and less and less about us. Because of all of the changes I find myself second guessing many of my decisions. I'm second guessing things that are too expensive to change and wanting to change things that haven't been purchased yet. I really want to get the day that I'm picturing in my head, but it's difficult to see it that way at the moment. Some of the people we really want to attend can't make it and that makes me sad. This day is once in a lifetime (if done right) and isn't easy to recreate. Of everything I picked our over a year ago, the number 1 thing I got was photography. I love her work and she is so easy to work with. I think she makes us both feel comfortable.
I'm sad that other people keep trying to make decision for us and for our day. Recently we tried to find another dress for my sister for to wear to the wedding. And it was proving difficult because of her size. After going to two stores and discussing the idea over dinner, my mom decided that it'd be easier to take her out of the wedding. No one seems to understand that I was looking forward to possibly shareing something special with my sister and although replacing her dress would be a little pricey it could bring us a little closer.
Because many people keep trying to influence my day, I feel like pulling away from them. I don't want to talk to my mom or sister or anyone really other than my fiancee and my dad. Even when I do talk to them I hold back a lot of how I am feeling. I almost opened up completely the other day but I knew if I let my guard down, I'd probably cry with how frustrated I've been. I'm only in the planning stages but I feel like I'm going to hate my wedding. I'm really looking forward to the marriage part but the wedding is upsetting me. I'm not one to be the center of attention and neither is my fiancee.
Well I guess that's all for now. I'm tired and have to work tomorrow.
Sunday, March 11, 2012
Bridal Shower
So lately I've been trying to figure out, when, where and what theme for my bridal shower (yes I know this is supposed to be left to my bridesmaids). It dawned on me today that what would be awesome, is a 1950's themed bridal shower. I love to cook and bake. I also love things that are old fashioned, especially things from the 1950's. I think it would be great to have an event that is simple and classic. I've look up a few other blogs and found that, although I'm not the first person to think of this, I like the idea and am inspired by those before me. I LOVE the idea of each person bringing a recipe and dressing in 1950s inspired attire.
I am mostly inspired by a post on Offbeat Bride (http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/50s-housewife-themed-bridal-shower). I think it would be fun to mix the 1950s shower with the alphabet shower.
I am mostly inspired by a post on Offbeat Bride (http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/50s-housewife-themed-bridal-shower). I think it would be fun to mix the 1950s shower with the alphabet shower.
Monday, March 5, 2012
So frustrated....
So today I'm just so fed up with wedding planning. I understand that I changed things from the original concept but can y'all just be happy for me, go with the flow and do what I ask. I don't ask for much and most of the time I put others before myself. This is supposed to be my wonderful day and my goal was for stress-free planning but that seems to have gone out the window. I never thought during this whole process that the words" It's my day" would ever have to cross my lips and it seems to be happening more than I like.
I don't want to become a brideszilla or one of those crazy stressed out brides whose friends wonder when the B***h will go away and their friend will return. I just want a peaceful memorable day that will me special for my groom and I. Lately everyone seems to have a problem with everything we are doing which makes the think that I should have just eloped and making the idea more and more appealing. I can't remember the last time I felt important. I graduated from college last year and it seemed like many were focused on other things then on my milestone.
I get that this day is about blending families but why does everyone have to put in their two-cents if we didn't ask for it and quite frankly I don't give a damn. I'm the one footing the bill so it's all my choice, Isn't it? Like why do people in our families feel the need to invite others without asking us (some of them are already welcome to come). We are working on a limited budget with limited resources. The ceremony may be open to many but the reception is cost per person so what might seem like "just two people" could possibly turn into an extra table at the cost of $100+. I asked the reception venue how much an extra few people would cost with no more than a 10 person increase and we'd be looking at $170-350 to cover the cost. That is huge on a budget functioning around ~$5,000.
At one point in the planning process I considered forgoing my wedding cake to make sure I could have flowers or to cover the cost of food. I plan on doing a bunch of DIY projects in the summer months before my wedding so that I can get the look I want. Why does everyone have to suggest or throw a fit because someone isn't included (in their minds/eyes not ours) in the wedding party or because I changed a dress and your hellbent on something short and I want long. People are starting to push my buttons and the more if happens the quieter I become, because my dad says it best, "Once you let the words out, you can't take them back" at times I really want to yell, "IT'S MY WEDDING, IT'S OUR DAY, ALL WE NEED YOU TO DO IS SHOW UP!!"
I don't want to be a bridezilla and I can't take all this stress but would someone just understand that this is the most important day in 2012 as far as my life is concerned. So please unless I ask, keep your opinion to yourself. There are certain traditions that are important to me. I know some girls look forward to the bachelorette party but I don't really want to be center stage. I just want a relaxing girls night. What I do look forward to is the Bridal Shower. I want to blend generations and families and celebrate something special. I want to play the silly games and enjoy the stories. I'd like to keep it to a simple ladies only event. I love the idea of engraving the wedding bands. I want to take some old traditions and put my own little spin on it.
That's all, time for bed. Anymore of this computer screen and I'm gonna have a headache.
I don't want to become a brideszilla or one of those crazy stressed out brides whose friends wonder when the B***h will go away and their friend will return. I just want a peaceful memorable day that will me special for my groom and I. Lately everyone seems to have a problem with everything we are doing which makes the think that I should have just eloped and making the idea more and more appealing. I can't remember the last time I felt important. I graduated from college last year and it seemed like many were focused on other things then on my milestone.
I get that this day is about blending families but why does everyone have to put in their two-cents if we didn't ask for it and quite frankly I don't give a damn. I'm the one footing the bill so it's all my choice, Isn't it? Like why do people in our families feel the need to invite others without asking us (some of them are already welcome to come). We are working on a limited budget with limited resources. The ceremony may be open to many but the reception is cost per person so what might seem like "just two people" could possibly turn into an extra table at the cost of $100+. I asked the reception venue how much an extra few people would cost with no more than a 10 person increase and we'd be looking at $170-350 to cover the cost. That is huge on a budget functioning around ~$5,000.
At one point in the planning process I considered forgoing my wedding cake to make sure I could have flowers or to cover the cost of food. I plan on doing a bunch of DIY projects in the summer months before my wedding so that I can get the look I want. Why does everyone have to suggest or throw a fit because someone isn't included (in their minds/eyes not ours) in the wedding party or because I changed a dress and your hellbent on something short and I want long. People are starting to push my buttons and the more if happens the quieter I become, because my dad says it best, "Once you let the words out, you can't take them back" at times I really want to yell, "IT'S MY WEDDING, IT'S OUR DAY, ALL WE NEED YOU TO DO IS SHOW UP!!"
I don't want to be a bridezilla and I can't take all this stress but would someone just understand that this is the most important day in 2012 as far as my life is concerned. So please unless I ask, keep your opinion to yourself. There are certain traditions that are important to me. I know some girls look forward to the bachelorette party but I don't really want to be center stage. I just want a relaxing girls night. What I do look forward to is the Bridal Shower. I want to blend generations and families and celebrate something special. I want to play the silly games and enjoy the stories. I'd like to keep it to a simple ladies only event. I love the idea of engraving the wedding bands. I want to take some old traditions and put my own little spin on it.
That's all, time for bed. Anymore of this computer screen and I'm gonna have a headache.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Things don't always go as planned....
So our original plan was to do a church ceremony and try to do something a little untraditional for the reception. We planed on a cocktail reception and having a lot of fun with the overall day. However as so many of us know, not everything goes as planned. We were in contact with a vendor for the reception but they began to take longer, and longer to respond. There was also the possibility that the prices could go up before our big day and so our estimated cost might not meet reality. After sending multiple emails and not getting quick returns I had finally given up and began pursuing other options.
I found a nice reception hall that works well within my budget and included things that I greatly valued. It's not as untraditional as I desired but it would be a great place to hold our celebration. So with my change in venue design came many other changes. I now had a desire for a day that was elegant and romantic. This is my fairy tail moment and (if your lucky enough to have found true love) it only happens once in a lifetime. I want to remember this day as the happiest of my life and know that I'm starting a life of happiness and love. I want to celebrate that love and share it with everyone.
The other day one of my bridesmaids and I went shopping for her dress. For the past month (or maybe more) I've had trouble deciding on their dresses. A while ago we had purchased a dress for my sister, that fit the previous theme and that I said was acceptable because it was one of the few dresses that fit her that we could make work for the wedding. Anyway knowing that my sister is wearing a short dress, we tried to find a short dress that would look good on the other two bridesmaids that I have. Here in lies my problem. There are dresses that I like, that each look good on a singular bridesmaid and if I wanted to make it all different it could work but I like consistency. I'm not saying that they all have to be matchy-matchy but there needs to be some consistent element. We were planning on making it bows but then Rebecca tried on this long dress that I had been admiring for some time now (it was a favorite of many when I first got engaged) and it looked amazing on her. That dress reinforced the ideas that I have for my wedding. I sent a picture of it to my fiance and he liked it to. So then it was settled, that was the dress for my wedding.
Now since everything doesn't always go as planned there is a little drama and backlash for picking something different and at times I feel like saying "shut up" or "it's my day" but that's so no who I am. At times I have to be told to stand up for what I want but I guess I'm too much of a considerate person. But since this day only happens once in a lifetime, I should make the most of it. It's my opinion that the wedding it more about the two of you, then just one person. Yes I suppose it could be more about the Bride but non of it would be possible without the love shared between you both. We want a celebration of love, with elements of romance and elegance.
I found a nice reception hall that works well within my budget and included things that I greatly valued. It's not as untraditional as I desired but it would be a great place to hold our celebration. So with my change in venue design came many other changes. I now had a desire for a day that was elegant and romantic. This is my fairy tail moment and (if your lucky enough to have found true love) it only happens once in a lifetime. I want to remember this day as the happiest of my life and know that I'm starting a life of happiness and love. I want to celebrate that love and share it with everyone.
The other day one of my bridesmaids and I went shopping for her dress. For the past month (or maybe more) I've had trouble deciding on their dresses. A while ago we had purchased a dress for my sister, that fit the previous theme and that I said was acceptable because it was one of the few dresses that fit her that we could make work for the wedding. Anyway knowing that my sister is wearing a short dress, we tried to find a short dress that would look good on the other two bridesmaids that I have. Here in lies my problem. There are dresses that I like, that each look good on a singular bridesmaid and if I wanted to make it all different it could work but I like consistency. I'm not saying that they all have to be matchy-matchy but there needs to be some consistent element. We were planning on making it bows but then Rebecca tried on this long dress that I had been admiring for some time now (it was a favorite of many when I first got engaged) and it looked amazing on her. That dress reinforced the ideas that I have for my wedding. I sent a picture of it to my fiance and he liked it to. So then it was settled, that was the dress for my wedding.
Now since everything doesn't always go as planned there is a little drama and backlash for picking something different and at times I feel like saying "shut up" or "it's my day" but that's so no who I am. At times I have to be told to stand up for what I want but I guess I'm too much of a considerate person. But since this day only happens once in a lifetime, I should make the most of it. It's my opinion that the wedding it more about the two of you, then just one person. Yes I suppose it could be more about the Bride but non of it would be possible without the love shared between you both. We want a celebration of love, with elements of romance and elegance.
Monday, February 27, 2012
The to-do list just got smaller...
Soooo how much have I accomplished this past month....
I've booked the reception and the photographer. Purchased, designed, printed , assembled, addressed and mailed the invitations. As far as my big item to-do list goes I've complete a lot. And the best part I have complete faith that I will not go over budget. I have a clear idea of my wedding, the date and how I want the day to play out.
A rough timeline is as follows:
8am wake up, shower, relax and eat breakfast with my Bridesmaids
then
10:30(or maybe 11) start working on hair and then makeup
(Now the real chaos will begin and this will become a blurrr)
2:30 - get dressed and start taking pictures
3:15 - leave for the ceremony
4:00 - ceremony starts
4:45-5:45 - pictures, pictures, PICTURES!!!!
6:15 reception begins
9:45-10pm start wrapping up for the night(maybe a post-wedding bowling bash at the hotel)
I know there is still a lot more to work out as far as the details are concerned but I'm not too worried because I know I will have time during the summer to knock out most of those. But I'm soo soo excited about the process left before me because I know it's leading up to one of the most important and happiest days of my life. I can't wait for my wedding day but by no means and I prepared for it at the moment. I look forward to being married and growing closer with my fiancee and being happy. I know he is the most wonderful person and that there is nothing that I can't do with him by my side. I think many people get lost planing this day that has to epic and so over-the-top special that they forget what the day is about. We are trying to keep it simple, yet fun. I know that there is more to the day than just the wedding. It's the start of our lives together and a great way to celebrate our love for each other. We are keeping our wedding small so that we see everyone and that it is special to us. I don't want to look back at my wedding day and wonder, "Did I see everyone that I invited?" "Did I spend time with all my guests?" I want to know that I had a wonderful time with everyone that is coming and that I probably wouldn't change a think.
Well there is more to write later but for now....That's all folks!!
I've booked the reception and the photographer. Purchased, designed, printed , assembled, addressed and mailed the invitations. As far as my big item to-do list goes I've complete a lot. And the best part I have complete faith that I will not go over budget. I have a clear idea of my wedding, the date and how I want the day to play out.
A rough timeline is as follows:
8am wake up, shower, relax and eat breakfast with my Bridesmaids
then
10:30(or maybe 11) start working on hair and then makeup
(Now the real chaos will begin and this will become a blurrr)
2:30 - get dressed and start taking pictures
3:15 - leave for the ceremony
4:00 - ceremony starts
4:45-5:45 - pictures, pictures, PICTURES!!!!
6:15 reception begins
9:45-10pm start wrapping up for the night(maybe a post-wedding bowling bash at the hotel)
I know there is still a lot more to work out as far as the details are concerned but I'm not too worried because I know I will have time during the summer to knock out most of those. But I'm soo soo excited about the process left before me because I know it's leading up to one of the most important and happiest days of my life. I can't wait for my wedding day but by no means and I prepared for it at the moment. I look forward to being married and growing closer with my fiancee and being happy. I know he is the most wonderful person and that there is nothing that I can't do with him by my side. I think many people get lost planing this day that has to epic and so over-the-top special that they forget what the day is about. We are trying to keep it simple, yet fun. I know that there is more to the day than just the wedding. It's the start of our lives together and a great way to celebrate our love for each other. We are keeping our wedding small so that we see everyone and that it is special to us. I don't want to look back at my wedding day and wonder, "Did I see everyone that I invited?" "Did I spend time with all my guests?" I want to know that I had a wonderful time with everyone that is coming and that I probably wouldn't change a think.
Well there is more to write later but for now....That's all folks!!
Monday, February 20, 2012
The plan upto now....
So I recently signed the contract for our wedding reception. I didn't end up with our unique idea but I did find a venue that was budget friendly. We've confirmed the church with his Dad and contacted the photographer. We even went to Michael's and found a set of invitations that we like.
So now what is there left to do....
> decide on and order the Bridesmaids dresses (I can't choose between long or short)
> finalize guest list, print and mail invitations
> meet the Caterer and the baker
> decide on the menu and the cake
> plan out the ceremony and reception (including decor)
Now to consider a theme:
How do I want to feel on my wedding day: elegant, comfortable, beautiful
How do I want my wedding to feel: intimate, romantic, elegant, fun
Ideas:
>candle lit ceremony and reception
>flowers, flowers, flowers
> Flowing curtains
> rectangular tables
> finger foods, small plates, family favorites
>dessert bar - cupcakes, cookies, candy bar
>photobooth
> lots of love in the room
The other things that need to get done that aren't in my control are the bridal shower, RSVPs, bachelor/bachelorette parties.
> some ideas that I have that I would love
- alphabet shower
- bowling bachelorette party
- bridal party brunch
I'm confident that this wedding will be as I pictured it without breaking the bank. (Even if I have to DIY or cut corners)
So now what is there left to do....
> decide on and order the Bridesmaids dresses (I can't choose between long or short)
> finalize guest list, print and mail invitations
> meet the Caterer and the baker> decide on the menu and the cake
> plan out the ceremony and reception (including decor)
Now to consider a theme:
How do I want to feel on my wedding day: elegant, comfortable, beautiful
How do I want my wedding to feel: intimate, romantic, elegant, fun
Ideas:
>candle lit ceremony and reception
>flowers, flowers, flowers
> Flowing curtains
> rectangular tables
> finger foods, small plates, family favorites
>dessert bar - cupcakes, cookies, candy bar
>photobooth
> lots of love in the room
The other things that need to get done that aren't in my control are the bridal shower, RSVPs, bachelor/bachelorette parties.
> some ideas that I have that I would love
- alphabet shower
- bowling bachelorette party
- bridal party brunch
I'm confident that this wedding will be as I pictured it without breaking the bank. (Even if I have to DIY or cut corners)
Sunday, February 5, 2012
inspiration from Pinterest
I love the table design here. I'm sure my fiancee would tell me it's too much polka dots so I guess I'll have to hint at it for my Bridal Shower.
Vow Inspiration
Wedding Recpetion: Simple yet beautiful
Signage to liven up the reception
I love this idea for a photo
Vow Inspiration
Wedding Recpetion: Simple yet beautiful
Signage to liven up the reception
I love this idea for a photo
If little kids planned weddings...
My 5 year old nephew was sitting next to me when I was looking up some ideas for my wedding and he kept making suggestions. He told me the dresses should be blue and that they have to be long because the short one looks silly. When I asked him if he wanted to plan my wedding, he said yes. So I began asking him a few simple questions like what color should my wedding dress be? Where are we getting married? Will there be flowers? What food will we serve? What flavor is the cake?
He told me that my dress should be purple, that I'm getting married in the movie theater and yes there will be flowers. My other nephew volunteered to make sandwiches and french fries. They haven't decided on the cake.
So that's all I have from the munchkins, they found the playdough and wii remotes so now they are otherwise occupied. TTFN
He told me that my dress should be purple, that I'm getting married in the movie theater and yes there will be flowers. My other nephew volunteered to make sandwiches and french fries. They haven't decided on the cake.
So that's all I have from the munchkins, they found the playdough and wii remotes so now they are otherwise occupied. TTFN
Thursday, January 19, 2012
About 9 months to go....
So it's been a while since I last posted anything. I've been very busy with my first full time teaching job.
Since I last posted I have designed my wedding invitations as well as priced the pieces that I need to complete my pocketfold invitations. I've narrowed down my bridesmaids dresses to two styles that will complement my sisters LBD with Emerald Green sash. I realized the other day that my wedding will be approaching quickly. I should have my reception deposit soon and then my to do list will be as follows:
Book Reception
Book Church
Book Photographer
Order, Assemble and Mail Invitations
Register for gifts
Find an apartment with my Fiancee
Bridal Shower
Bridal Hair and Makeup
Wedding Cake
Flowers
Alterations (around August)
Looking at my to-do List there are some things that I wanted to focus on. I've had a hard time trying to decide and describe what I would really like to do for my Bridal Shower as well as my bachelorette party. The main rule that my fiancee and I decided upon for the "last night of freedom" as it is called is that there is no nakedness, nudity or strippers. I think it's silly that I'm looking forward more to my bridal shower than I am the bachelorette party. (I guess it's cause I'm not really a girl who takes in the night life) I want something simple yet classy. I'm a fan of the 1950's and that style of fashion. There is a dress at David's Bridal, that is similar to a dress that I like for my maids, that I would love to wear to my bridal shower (permitting it looks good on).
Bridal Shower: I've considered many themes that I would enjoy and for some reason I though that I would have to plan it myself and just give it to someone to execute. ( I guess that is the teacher in me.) Martha Stewart has some wonderful ideas and my favorite is the Alphabet shower. The Bridal shower is themed in the Brides name and the gifts all have a letter so that when displayed it spells out her name. I love this idea because when I was trying to narrow down the theme of my wedding it realized it was a mixture of a color scheme and really all about us.
Wedding theme: My wedding is going to be simple, romantic and fun. It is all about me and my fiancee and the many things we enjoy together. The colors are mainly Emerald green, Ivory and Black with silver accents. While considering the theme I was also trying to design my ceremony and I found some images online from either Real Simple or Brides (most likely Brides.com) about things that I liked. I love the hanging candles and while that might not work inside the church is does show the intimacy of the ceremony that I'm looking for. I also love the isle and Bride's entrance in the black and white photo. I asked my fiancee if it is possible to create this look at the church. He said maybe.
Well that's all I have for now. Next time I'm going to post some wonderful DIY websites that I've found to create everything from logos to save the dates. The best part... they are FREE!!!
Since I last posted I have designed my wedding invitations as well as priced the pieces that I need to complete my pocketfold invitations. I've narrowed down my bridesmaids dresses to two styles that will complement my sisters LBD with Emerald Green sash. I realized the other day that my wedding will be approaching quickly. I should have my reception deposit soon and then my to do list will be as follows:
Book Reception
Book ChurchBook Photographer
Order, Assemble and Mail Invitations
Register for gifts
Find an apartment with my Fiancee
Bridal Shower
Bridal Hair and Makeup
Wedding Cake
Flowers
Alterations (around August)
Looking at my to-do List there are some things that I wanted to focus on. I've had a hard time trying to decide and describe what I would really like to do for my Bridal Shower as well as my bachelorette party. The main rule that my fiancee and I decided upon for the "last night of freedom" as it is called is that there is no nakedness, nudity or strippers. I think it's silly that I'm looking forward more to my bridal shower than I am the bachelorette party. (I guess it's cause I'm not really a girl who takes in the night life) I want something simple yet classy. I'm a fan of the 1950's and that style of fashion. There is a dress at David's Bridal, that is similar to a dress that I like for my maids, that I would love to wear to my bridal shower (permitting it looks good on). Bridal Shower: I've considered many themes that I would enjoy and for some reason I though that I would have to plan it myself and just give it to someone to execute. ( I guess that is the teacher in me.) Martha Stewart has some wonderful ideas and my favorite is the Alphabet shower. The Bridal shower is themed in the Brides name and the gifts all have a letter so that when displayed it spells out her name. I love this idea because when I was trying to narrow down the theme of my wedding it realized it was a mixture of a color scheme and really all about us.
Wedding theme: My wedding is going to be simple, romantic and fun. It is all about me and my fiancee and the many things we enjoy together. The colors are mainly Emerald green, Ivory and Black with silver accents. While considering the theme I was also trying to design my ceremony and I found some images online from either Real Simple or Brides (most likely Brides.com) about things that I liked. I love the hanging candles and while that might not work inside the church is does show the intimacy of the ceremony that I'm looking for. I also love the isle and Bride's entrance in the black and white photo. I asked my fiancee if it is possible to create this look at the church. He said maybe.
Well that's all I have for now. Next time I'm going to post some wonderful DIY websites that I've found to create everything from logos to save the dates. The best part... they are FREE!!!
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