So lately wedding plans have been getting on my nerves. Nothing seems to go the way I would like it to and it's making me wonder why I wanted to have this big ordeal anyway. Lately it seems like nothing can go our way. I really wanted a stress free day that I could enjoy but the problems I run into with planning make me want to just run off an elope. Why should I spend all this money on a wedding if it's not everything I want? Originally I wanted to do something a little different, a little fun and something very us. But when that didn't pan out I had to develop plan B (or maybe it's C, D or E at this point).
Our wedding seems to becoming more and more traditional and less and less about us. Because of all of the changes I find myself second guessing many of my decisions. I'm second guessing things that are too expensive to change and wanting to change things that haven't been purchased yet. I really want to get the day that I'm picturing in my head, but it's difficult to see it that way at the moment. Some of the people we really want to attend can't make it and that makes me sad. This day is once in a lifetime (if done right) and isn't easy to recreate. Of everything I picked our over a year ago, the number 1 thing I got was photography. I love her work and she is so easy to work with. I think she makes us both feel comfortable.
I'm sad that other people keep trying to make decision for us and for our day. Recently we tried to find another dress for my sister for to wear to the wedding. And it was proving difficult because of her size. After going to two stores and discussing the idea over dinner, my mom decided that it'd be easier to take her out of the wedding. No one seems to understand that I was looking forward to possibly shareing something special with my sister and although replacing her dress would be a little pricey it could bring us a little closer.
Because many people keep trying to influence my day, I feel like pulling away from them. I don't want to talk to my mom or sister or anyone really other than my fiancee and my dad. Even when I do talk to them I hold back a lot of how I am feeling. I almost opened up completely the other day but I knew if I let my guard down, I'd probably cry with how frustrated I've been. I'm only in the planning stages but I feel like I'm going to hate my wedding. I'm really looking forward to the marriage part but the wedding is upsetting me. I'm not one to be the center of attention and neither is my fiancee.
Well I guess that's all for now. I'm tired and have to work tomorrow.
Friday, March 16, 2012
Sunday, March 11, 2012
Bridal Shower
So lately I've been trying to figure out, when, where and what theme for my bridal shower (yes I know this is supposed to be left to my bridesmaids). It dawned on me today that what would be awesome, is a 1950's themed bridal shower. I love to cook and bake. I also love things that are old fashioned, especially things from the 1950's. I think it would be great to have an event that is simple and classic. I've look up a few other blogs and found that, although I'm not the first person to think of this, I like the idea and am inspired by those before me. I LOVE the idea of each person bringing a recipe and dressing in 1950s inspired attire.
I am mostly inspired by a post on Offbeat Bride (http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/50s-housewife-themed-bridal-shower). I think it would be fun to mix the 1950s shower with the alphabet shower.
I am mostly inspired by a post on Offbeat Bride (http://offbeatbride.com/2011/06/50s-housewife-themed-bridal-shower). I think it would be fun to mix the 1950s shower with the alphabet shower.
Monday, March 5, 2012
So frustrated....
So today I'm just so fed up with wedding planning. I understand that I changed things from the original concept but can y'all just be happy for me, go with the flow and do what I ask. I don't ask for much and most of the time I put others before myself. This is supposed to be my wonderful day and my goal was for stress-free planning but that seems to have gone out the window. I never thought during this whole process that the words" It's my day" would ever have to cross my lips and it seems to be happening more than I like.
I don't want to become a brideszilla or one of those crazy stressed out brides whose friends wonder when the B***h will go away and their friend will return. I just want a peaceful memorable day that will me special for my groom and I. Lately everyone seems to have a problem with everything we are doing which makes the think that I should have just eloped and making the idea more and more appealing. I can't remember the last time I felt important. I graduated from college last year and it seemed like many were focused on other things then on my milestone.
I get that this day is about blending families but why does everyone have to put in their two-cents if we didn't ask for it and quite frankly I don't give a damn. I'm the one footing the bill so it's all my choice, Isn't it? Like why do people in our families feel the need to invite others without asking us (some of them are already welcome to come). We are working on a limited budget with limited resources. The ceremony may be open to many but the reception is cost per person so what might seem like "just two people" could possibly turn into an extra table at the cost of $100+. I asked the reception venue how much an extra few people would cost with no more than a 10 person increase and we'd be looking at $170-350 to cover the cost. That is huge on a budget functioning around ~$5,000.
At one point in the planning process I considered forgoing my wedding cake to make sure I could have flowers or to cover the cost of food. I plan on doing a bunch of DIY projects in the summer months before my wedding so that I can get the look I want. Why does everyone have to suggest or throw a fit because someone isn't included (in their minds/eyes not ours) in the wedding party or because I changed a dress and your hellbent on something short and I want long. People are starting to push my buttons and the more if happens the quieter I become, because my dad says it best, "Once you let the words out, you can't take them back" at times I really want to yell, "IT'S MY WEDDING, IT'S OUR DAY, ALL WE NEED YOU TO DO IS SHOW UP!!"
I don't want to be a bridezilla and I can't take all this stress but would someone just understand that this is the most important day in 2012 as far as my life is concerned. So please unless I ask, keep your opinion to yourself. There are certain traditions that are important to me. I know some girls look forward to the bachelorette party but I don't really want to be center stage. I just want a relaxing girls night. What I do look forward to is the Bridal Shower. I want to blend generations and families and celebrate something special. I want to play the silly games and enjoy the stories. I'd like to keep it to a simple ladies only event. I love the idea of engraving the wedding bands. I want to take some old traditions and put my own little spin on it.
That's all, time for bed. Anymore of this computer screen and I'm gonna have a headache.
I don't want to become a brideszilla or one of those crazy stressed out brides whose friends wonder when the B***h will go away and their friend will return. I just want a peaceful memorable day that will me special for my groom and I. Lately everyone seems to have a problem with everything we are doing which makes the think that I should have just eloped and making the idea more and more appealing. I can't remember the last time I felt important. I graduated from college last year and it seemed like many were focused on other things then on my milestone.
I get that this day is about blending families but why does everyone have to put in their two-cents if we didn't ask for it and quite frankly I don't give a damn. I'm the one footing the bill so it's all my choice, Isn't it? Like why do people in our families feel the need to invite others without asking us (some of them are already welcome to come). We are working on a limited budget with limited resources. The ceremony may be open to many but the reception is cost per person so what might seem like "just two people" could possibly turn into an extra table at the cost of $100+. I asked the reception venue how much an extra few people would cost with no more than a 10 person increase and we'd be looking at $170-350 to cover the cost. That is huge on a budget functioning around ~$5,000.
At one point in the planning process I considered forgoing my wedding cake to make sure I could have flowers or to cover the cost of food. I plan on doing a bunch of DIY projects in the summer months before my wedding so that I can get the look I want. Why does everyone have to suggest or throw a fit because someone isn't included (in their minds/eyes not ours) in the wedding party or because I changed a dress and your hellbent on something short and I want long. People are starting to push my buttons and the more if happens the quieter I become, because my dad says it best, "Once you let the words out, you can't take them back" at times I really want to yell, "IT'S MY WEDDING, IT'S OUR DAY, ALL WE NEED YOU TO DO IS SHOW UP!!"
I don't want to be a bridezilla and I can't take all this stress but would someone just understand that this is the most important day in 2012 as far as my life is concerned. So please unless I ask, keep your opinion to yourself. There are certain traditions that are important to me. I know some girls look forward to the bachelorette party but I don't really want to be center stage. I just want a relaxing girls night. What I do look forward to is the Bridal Shower. I want to blend generations and families and celebrate something special. I want to play the silly games and enjoy the stories. I'd like to keep it to a simple ladies only event. I love the idea of engraving the wedding bands. I want to take some old traditions and put my own little spin on it.
That's all, time for bed. Anymore of this computer screen and I'm gonna have a headache.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
Things don't always go as planned....
So our original plan was to do a church ceremony and try to do something a little untraditional for the reception. We planed on a cocktail reception and having a lot of fun with the overall day. However as so many of us know, not everything goes as planned. We were in contact with a vendor for the reception but they began to take longer, and longer to respond. There was also the possibility that the prices could go up before our big day and so our estimated cost might not meet reality. After sending multiple emails and not getting quick returns I had finally given up and began pursuing other options.
I found a nice reception hall that works well within my budget and included things that I greatly valued. It's not as untraditional as I desired but it would be a great place to hold our celebration. So with my change in venue design came many other changes. I now had a desire for a day that was elegant and romantic. This is my fairy tail moment and (if your lucky enough to have found true love) it only happens once in a lifetime. I want to remember this day as the happiest of my life and know that I'm starting a life of happiness and love. I want to celebrate that love and share it with everyone.
The other day one of my bridesmaids and I went shopping for her dress. For the past month (or maybe more) I've had trouble deciding on their dresses. A while ago we had purchased a dress for my sister, that fit the previous theme and that I said was acceptable because it was one of the few dresses that fit her that we could make work for the wedding. Anyway knowing that my sister is wearing a short dress, we tried to find a short dress that would look good on the other two bridesmaids that I have. Here in lies my problem. There are dresses that I like, that each look good on a singular bridesmaid and if I wanted to make it all different it could work but I like consistency. I'm not saying that they all have to be matchy-matchy but there needs to be some consistent element. We were planning on making it bows but then Rebecca tried on this long dress that I had been admiring for some time now (it was a favorite of many when I first got engaged) and it looked amazing on her. That dress reinforced the ideas that I have for my wedding. I sent a picture of it to my fiance and he liked it to. So then it was settled, that was the dress for my wedding.
Now since everything doesn't always go as planned there is a little drama and backlash for picking something different and at times I feel like saying "shut up" or "it's my day" but that's so no who I am. At times I have to be told to stand up for what I want but I guess I'm too much of a considerate person. But since this day only happens once in a lifetime, I should make the most of it. It's my opinion that the wedding it more about the two of you, then just one person. Yes I suppose it could be more about the Bride but non of it would be possible without the love shared between you both. We want a celebration of love, with elements of romance and elegance.
I found a nice reception hall that works well within my budget and included things that I greatly valued. It's not as untraditional as I desired but it would be a great place to hold our celebration. So with my change in venue design came many other changes. I now had a desire for a day that was elegant and romantic. This is my fairy tail moment and (if your lucky enough to have found true love) it only happens once in a lifetime. I want to remember this day as the happiest of my life and know that I'm starting a life of happiness and love. I want to celebrate that love and share it with everyone.
The other day one of my bridesmaids and I went shopping for her dress. For the past month (or maybe more) I've had trouble deciding on their dresses. A while ago we had purchased a dress for my sister, that fit the previous theme and that I said was acceptable because it was one of the few dresses that fit her that we could make work for the wedding. Anyway knowing that my sister is wearing a short dress, we tried to find a short dress that would look good on the other two bridesmaids that I have. Here in lies my problem. There are dresses that I like, that each look good on a singular bridesmaid and if I wanted to make it all different it could work but I like consistency. I'm not saying that they all have to be matchy-matchy but there needs to be some consistent element. We were planning on making it bows but then Rebecca tried on this long dress that I had been admiring for some time now (it was a favorite of many when I first got engaged) and it looked amazing on her. That dress reinforced the ideas that I have for my wedding. I sent a picture of it to my fiance and he liked it to. So then it was settled, that was the dress for my wedding.
Now since everything doesn't always go as planned there is a little drama and backlash for picking something different and at times I feel like saying "shut up" or "it's my day" but that's so no who I am. At times I have to be told to stand up for what I want but I guess I'm too much of a considerate person. But since this day only happens once in a lifetime, I should make the most of it. It's my opinion that the wedding it more about the two of you, then just one person. Yes I suppose it could be more about the Bride but non of it would be possible without the love shared between you both. We want a celebration of love, with elements of romance and elegance.
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