Bridal Shower

So my wedding is quickly approaching... before I know it summer will be here and then my wedding!!!  There is still so much to do and despite my best efforts it's becoming a little stressful.  I believe that some of my RSVPs have been lost in the mail, that I may have to plan days that should have been planned for me and that I will have a ton to do and not a lot of time.   I found some helpful advice on theKnot.com about tips and ideas.  What I would really love is to have someone plan something simple yet fun and representative of me.   I love the idea of a 1950's Housewife Bridal Shower but I also like the idea of an Alphabet shower which is themed in the Bride's name.  So I guess the theme is really up to the person willing to host my Bridal Shower.  I know that there are traditions and etiquette for these sorts of things but I seem to be on the short end here.  I only have two bridesmaids, one who lives in state and one who lives out of state.  So how do I suppose that one person will be willing to throw me a party alone?
I don't however I don't want to do it myself either.   My hope is that it will all work out and that I will have a wonderful bridal shower.  I am more than willing to skip the bachelorette party.  The traditional "last night of freedom" wildness is not my style.  What I can't seem to understand is, why can't you invite anyone you want to your bridal shower?  Why should it be limited to only those invited to the wedding?  I have some good friends that I would love to spend time with but  can't afford to invite them to the reception so why can't I share the wonderful occasion with everyone I want to have there?

So for my Bridal Shower:
* I found some cute invites at Target
* When, Where, What time?
* Who to invite?

What I really want?
something classy and elegant
to feel special and loved
to feel important
to relax and have a little fun