So today I'm just so fed up with wedding planning. I understand that I changed things from the original concept but can y'all just be happy for me, go with the flow and do what I ask. I don't ask for much and most of the time I put others before myself. This is supposed to be my wonderful day and my goal was for stress-free planning but that seems to have gone out the window. I never thought during this whole process that the words" It's my day" would ever have to cross my lips and it seems to be happening more than I like.
I don't want to become a brideszilla or one of those crazy stressed out brides whose friends wonder when the B***h will go away and their friend will return. I just want a peaceful memorable day that will me special for my groom and I. Lately everyone seems to have a problem with everything we are doing which makes the think that I should have just eloped and making the idea more and more appealing. I can't remember the last time I felt important. I graduated from college last year and it seemed like many were focused on other things then on my milestone.
I get that this day is about blending families but why does everyone have to put in their two-cents if we didn't ask for it and quite frankly I don't give a damn. I'm the one footing the bill so it's all my choice, Isn't it? Like why do people in our families feel the need to invite others without asking us (some of them are already welcome to come). We are working on a limited budget with limited resources. The ceremony may be open to many but the reception is cost per person so what might seem like "just two people" could possibly turn into an extra table at the cost of $100+. I asked the reception venue how much an extra few people would cost with no more than a 10 person increase and we'd be looking at $170-350 to cover the cost. That is huge on a budget functioning around ~$5,000.
At one point in the planning process I considered forgoing my wedding cake to make sure I could have flowers or to cover the cost of food. I plan on doing a bunch of DIY projects in the summer months before my wedding so that I can get the look I want. Why does everyone have to suggest or throw a fit because someone isn't included (in their minds/eyes not ours) in the wedding party or because I changed a dress and your hellbent on something short and I want long. People are starting to push my buttons and the more if happens the quieter I become, because my dad says it best, "Once you let the words out, you can't take them back" at times I really want to yell, "IT'S MY WEDDING, IT'S OUR DAY, ALL WE NEED YOU TO DO IS SHOW UP!!"
I don't want to be a bridezilla and I can't take all this stress but would someone just understand that this is the most important day in 2012 as far as my life is concerned. So please unless I ask, keep your opinion to yourself. There are certain traditions that are important to me. I know some girls look forward to the bachelorette party but I don't really want to be center stage. I just want a relaxing girls night. What I do look forward to is the Bridal Shower. I want to blend generations and families and celebrate something special. I want to play the silly games and enjoy the stories. I'd like to keep it to a simple ladies only event. I love the idea of engraving the wedding bands. I want to take some old traditions and put my own little spin on it.
That's all, time for bed. Anymore of this computer screen and I'm gonna have a headache.
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