So my goal is to spend less than $10,000 on my wedding and still get as many parts of my dream wedding as I want. But because of this recession it seems that my wedding may not happen at all. Cost is a major part of any wedding and trying to save up enough to pay for everything is driving me crazy. Every time I work out a plan it falls apart. If things don't start looking up soon I may have to start cutting a lot out and sacrificing my original vision. Our guest list is as small as we can make it without making people mad or offending friends and family. Part of me is trying to stay optimistic and the other part of me is trying to get real and decide what to do about our wedding. Should we change venues, have a smaller wedding, do we cut the guest list again and hope we don't offend family, do we ask for help paying, do we push back the wedding or do we just elope and have a traditional wedding later when we can afford it.
I'm getting really frustrated with our parents and conversations we have over the wedding. Everyone wants us to wait yet it hurts us to be apart. We will get the look of shame if we are living together out of wed lock and if we live together odds are we won't save much for the wedding. Anything extra I can save now is going to be squashed when I have to start paying back student loans. Part of what is upsetting is that I'm being told to save for my wedding, save for an apartment, and consider pushing back my wedding but I have my wedding dress hanging in my closet because it was on sale so it was purchased. (and to be honest I'm fretting that I made that decision too soon)
I honestly don't know what to do and I'm not sure how much longer I can be optimistic about the wedding. I can only sacrifice so much of my dream and my plan before it's not even my wedding. And if I'm not getting what I want I don't even think I'd do it. So it seems like the choices are push back the wedding, elope/locals only wedding or not get married. And I don't want to do any of those. Where is the fairy god mother to make my dreams come true. All I can say is HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Lauren,
ReplyDeleteLook at cutting costs in terms of the ceremony. Find a friend or someone you may know that can officiate weddings. More often then not they will do it for free, if not for a small free. Look for a cheap DJ, if you go that route. Did you ever meet Mr. Tobler during the student teaching? He does DJing on the side. Just look at little things here and there, it can save you lots of money.
We aren't having a DJ and my father in law is officiating. Weddings are just all around expensive.
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